What if the argument isn't really about the argument?
Do you find yourself having the same argument over and over again — even when the topic keeps changing?
Maybe you struggle to communicate what you really need.
Maybe you find yourself abandoning your own boundaries to keep the peace.
Maybe the same emotional reactions keep coming up, even when you consciously want things to be different.
Sometimes, there are deeper patterns underneath the conflict — patterns that may have little to do with your partner or the situation itself.
You may have learned somewhere along the way that love needs to be earned.
That you have to give more, prove yourself, fix things, or hold everything together to keep love alive.
You may even find yourself questioning whether you can simply be yourself and still be loved.
When these patterns remain unseen, the same dynamics can keep repeating — even when you deeply want something different.
Meet Paula-Maria,
I’m a certified Coach and licensed Psychosocial Counsellor (Dipl. Lebens- und Sozialberaterin) with 500+ hours of 1:1 transformational work.
I support individuals and couples in navigating conflict, understanding the patterns that shape how they relate, and creating more conscious, connected relationships. Together, we explore communication, boundaries, needs, and emotional patterns to create greater self-awareness, emotional stability, and a deeper experience of LOVE.
Alongside my professional training, I bring over 10 years of personal inner development and exploration, which deeply shapes my approach to relationships, transformation, and change.
Paula-Maria Wachsenegger, MSc, Dipl.Lebens- und Sozialberaterin
Paula-Maria Wachsenegger, MSc
Transformational
Coaching
SELF-AWARENESS | CONFLICT RESOLUTION | CONSCIOUS RELATING
Deepen your connection. Transform how you relate. Feel more love.
Do you find yourselves having the same argument over and over again, even when the issue seems to change?
Often, recurring conflict is not really about the argument itself. There may be one or two deeper patterns underneath it that keep getting activated. Patterns that can exist within either person and may have little to do with the partner or the situation itself.
And sometimes, it goes even deeper.
We can learn to mistake certain relationship dynamics for love. We may believe that love has to be earned, that we have to give more, fix more, prove ourselves, or hold everything together to keep it alive. We may struggle to trust that we can simply be ourselves and still be loved - or even to believe that we deserve a love that feels safe, mutual, and nourishing.
In our work, we look beneath the surface: at the patterns, beliefs, needs, boundaries, and experiences that shape the way you love and relate.
I combine mindset and somatic-centered coaching to help you bring these patterns into awareness and create new ways of responding — so you can move out of familiar cycles and into greater self-awareness, emotional stability and self-trust.
The goal isn't to avoid conflict or decide who is right. It's to understand what is happening underneath it, take responsibility for your own part, and learn to relate differently without losing yourself or each other.
Because sometimes the argument is not the problem. It's the pattern underneath it. And sometimes, the deeper work is learning what love can feel like when you no longer have to earn it.
1:1 SESSIONS
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there" -Rumi
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You’re being invited to understand yourself more deeply and open yourself to more love.
To look beneath the patterns, the conflict, and the ways you’ve learned to love — and discover what is really asking to be seen, understood, and changed.
HOW WE'LL WORK
Together
Discovery
Look beneath the surface and understand the patterns shaping how you relate.
Ground in Love
Define the kind of love and relationship you want to create — and the way you want to show up within it.
Rise in Love
Release old patterns and beliefs around love, reconnect with yourself, and create new ways of responding, relating, and connecting.
Integration
Bring your new awareness into everyday life, embodying new ways of relating and creating lasting change beyond our work together.
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Teresa, Mentor, Teacher & Creative artist
Working with you has been very transformative for me. I’ve moved from a phase of uncertainty and confusion to self-confidence and clarity. Your approach and the tools you provided helped me recognize and overcome my own blockages. I now feel much stronger and more centered, and I finally know the direction I want to go in.
Natalia, Interior Designer
When I reached out, I felt lost and heartbroken. Through her guidance, I reconnected with my strength, clarity, and inner leadership. She held a deeply safe space for my transformation and helped me step into a new chapter of my life with confidence and ease.
Emilia, Educational Pedagogue
When I first reached out, I felt stuck and unsure of my direction. Working with her changed everything. She helped me reconnect with my vision, build confidence, and step into my leadership with clarity. This wasn’t just strategy, it was a real transformation.
MY TOOLS
Certified Psychosocial Counselling
Guidance through life transitions, emotional challenges, and relational dynamics
Certified Somatic-centered Coaching
Supporting transformation through the integration of body, emotions, nervous system awareness, and embodied self-connection.
Nervous system support & Regulation
Grounding practices for safety, resilience, and embodied presence
Inner Child Healing
Reconnect with and nurture the wounded child within you
Family Constellation & Projection Work
Reveal and heal ancestral patterns, Uncover inner blocks and projections to reclaim power, wholeness, and alignment with your Self
Somatic Emotional Release
Gently process stored emotions through the body
Shadow Work Integration
Meet your unconscious parts with compassion and integrate them into wholeness
Spiritual Alignment
Reconnect with your higher self and spiritual purpose
Options
PRICING & PAYMENT
Your Investment
6 × 1:1 coaching sessions
Over 6–8 weeks
The pace is adapted to your individual needs and schedule.
Payment options available:
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One-time payment: €745
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Payment plan: 2 × €395
The investment is intentionally clear from the beginning, so you can decide whether this is the right commitment for you.
Why
1:1 Coaching
MY STORY
Why Choose My Coaching
From the outside, my life looked like success: various degrees in Business & Psychology, Management & Ethics (MSc), a career in London, and a beautiful apartment near Hyde Park. Yet underneath, I felt disconnected from my body, my inner world, and my deeper sense of direction. I was living a life shaped more by expectation than by what truly felt right for me.
In 2019, a quiet inner call led me to India, where I immersed myself in somatic practices, inner exploration, and transformative teachings. That journey became a turning point — bringing me back into deeper connection with myself, my truth, and a more authentic way of being.
Since then, I have trained as a somatic-centered coach and licensed psychosocial consultant, bringing together deep inner work, embodied awareness, and a holistic understanding of the patterns that shape how we relate — to ourselves, to others, and to life.
Why my coaching?
Because I know what it feels like to lose connection with yourself while trying to live the life you think you should want. And I know how powerful it can be to begin listening differently — to your body, your needs, your boundaries, and your inner truth.
My work creates space to look beneath the surface: beyond the recurring argument, the familiar relationship pattern, or the feeling that something is simply “wrong” with you or your relationship.
Together, we explore what is really underneath — the beliefs, patterns, needs, and ways of relating that may have been shaping your experience of love without you even realizing it.
Through this process, you begin to:
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reconnect with yourself and your inner knowing
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understand the patterns beneath recurring conflict
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honour your needs and boundaries without abandoning connection
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create more conscious, authentic ways of loving and relating
This is not about fixing yourself or finding someone to blame. It is about understanding what is underneath, meeting yourself with greater compassion, and creating a new way of relating — to yourself, to each other, and to love.
